I Probably Need Therapy But…

Chapter One: The Relationship That broke Me.

How We Met.

Therapy is expensive, but who needs therapy anyways, probably me. Ok, so let’s go back to the very beginning and talk about how we first met. I first met Robert (not his real name) but let’s call him Rob for short since I feel cheated and robbed. It was a holiday weekend, and me and a friend had plans to go to a party at a club that Saturday night. It was supposed to be a really big party, and we got all dolled up to go. We completely underestimated how popular the club would be that night because the club was so packed that they stopped letting people in. Since we were already all dressed up, it was only right that we found another way to hang out and have fun that night.

Change of plans.

So, we drove around to check out some of the other clubs in the area to see if they had anything going on that night. We pulled up to one club that neither of us has been to before, but we have heard of it. As I pulled up to the front of the club, I recognized a friend from high school. It’s a guy that was in my homeroom all four years of high school, but we have lost touch over the years. We exchange pleasantries and he mentioned that he is the one hosting the party at this club and we should come inside, so we did. That decision to go inside changed the course of my life. I should have went home.

He Offended Me

We had to climb a flight of stairs to get inside to the hall that the party was being held. Then when I got to the top of the stairs, a gentleman stopped me. He tried to chat me up and asked me for my phone number. This man had all kinds of bumps and rashes all over his lips. I was offended that he even tried to talk to me. I’m still offended to this day. I felt like he had no rights trying to talk to me. He really needed to go to the doctor and getting his lips cleared up.

So before you start judging me for talking about his lips; this is a safe space but it’s also an honest space. Honesty isn’t aways kind and mushy, sometimes its raw and may hurt some feelings. In hindsight, I wish I was offended enough to leave then and go home.

A recognizable face.

Let’s move on, now we are in the club and I recognized the DJ. He is a very popular DJ among the nightclub scene in that area and has been for many years. And I’ve known him since I was around middle school age. He is a few years older than me, and we didn’t go to school together at any point. However, we went to the same church of all places. I did chit chat a little bit with the DJ. Then my friend and I spent most of the night hanging out close to the DJ both. The club wasn’t very packed, but it was still a decent crowd.

As The Night Ends

As, the night was winding down, my friend and I decided that it was time to call it a night and head home. Then just as we were about to leave, I was approached by another gentleman. We talked for a little bit and we exchanged phone numbers. Actually, I remember giving him my number, but I can’t remember if he gave me his. Now it’s time to head back down the stairs and who do I see? If you guessed bumpy lips from earlier, then you’ve guessed correctly. He grabbed a hold of my hands and tried to get my number again. This just reminds me that I should had gone home and never gone in that club in the first place.

Guess Who.

Now of all the guys I mentioned, can you guess which one is Rob? No, it wasn’t my old schoolmate, he tried many times over the years and failed. It wasn’t the DJ either. However, if you guessed Mr. Lips, you and I need to sit down and have serious conversation. It was the guy I exchanged numbers with. you were so distracted by Mr. Lips that you didn’t even notice.

So yes, that is how Robert and I met. It was at a party that I wasn’t even supposed to be at. If only I had just gone home after the first club was too packed to get into. My life would be so different today. A chance encounter changed my life forever.

If you would like to get a glimpse into what my life with Robert is like; go read my previous post here. Or if you would like to listen to a raw uncut episode of a moment where I felt completely broken about how Robert was treating me one day. I actually recorded how I felt in that exact moment. With tears and all; I needed to record to remind myself of how broken I was. And how I never wanted to feel like that ever again. You can listen to it here.

Hi, my name is Shany and if you would like to come on this journey of my relationship drama with Robert, subscribe and buckle-up your seat belt; you are in for one heck of a ride. You might end up needing therapy yourself if you go down this road with me.

Have you ever had a moment in one of your relationships where you felt like completely broken? Am I alone in this? comment below.